le step. When being bullied or harassed by a work colleague put your hand up to them, about one to two feet away, just like a policeman using the stop signal with his hand. You then say to the person, "STOP. You are harassing/bullying me, I do not like the nature of your tone and request you stop speaking in this manner immediately". Imagine the reaction you will get from the colleague, especially if they continue and you repeat yourself several times.

If this is the case, summon immediately a co-worke

A great psychiatrist gave a presentation at a large conference attended by colleagues and his peers. As he spoke every audience member were glued and intently listening to every one of his words. He was talking about harassment.

The psychiatrist spoke of two projections that we are able to portray in our every day life. One projection is best summarized and depicted as the projection we have when driving our car down the street and someone, typically the bully, cuts in on us or turns in front of us. With this projection we immediately get angry and put our hand on the horn gesticulating at the other driver with a barrage of verbal obscenities.

The other projection is when we are shopping and pushing our trolley along calmly and someone comes into our space, barging in front of us or stopping suddenly causing us to brake to avoid a collision with them. We immediately get angry, let our trolley "bump" the other or we say something.

The true projection we should have is one when we are driving along we will expect someone, the bully, to pull out in front of us and we will expect someone to turn in front of us. We should expect when shopping that someone will storm in front of us and stop suddenly. The way we deal with this is to remain calm, saying to yourself "just as I thought someone has come into my space".

When you know this and expect this and it happens you can react by slowing down and avoid the situation. You can remain calm and continue on your way as you knew this was going to happen and you expected it to happen and it did. You don't get upset and would not even give it a second thought.

This is the projection we should have because when we expect it to happen we are prepared to take the right course of action remaining calm and in control.

This is the same with our workplace bully and harasser. We know their in the office and we know they are going to upset us. But knowing this we are prepared for them and not intimidated by their actions.

Dealing with this is one simple step. When being bullied or harassed by a work colleague put your hand up to them, about one to two feet away, just like a policeman using the stop signal with his hand. You then say to the person, "STOP. You are harassing/bullying me, I do not like the nature of your tone and request you stop speaking in this manner immediately". Imagine the reaction you will get from the colleague, especially if they continue and you repeat yourself several times.

If this is the case, summon immediately a co-worke

h this projection we immediately get angry and put our hand on the horn gesticulating at the other driver with a barrage of verbal obscenities.

The other projection is when we are shopping and pushing our trolley along calmly and someone comes into our space, barging in front of us or stopping suddenly causing us to brake to avoid a collision with them. We immediately get angry, let our trolley "bump" the other or we say something.

The true projection we should have is one when we are driving along we will expect someone, the bully, to pull out in front of us and we will expect someone to turn in front of us. We should expect when shopping that someone will storm in front of us and stop suddenly. The way we deal with this is to remain calm, saying to yourself "just as I thought someone has come into my space".

When you know this and expect this and it happens you can react by slowing down and avoid the situation. You can remain calm and continue on your way as you knew this was going to happen and you expected it to happen and it did. You don't get upset and would not even give it a second thought.

This is the projection we should have because when we expect it to happen we are prepared to take the right course of action remaining calm and in control.

This is the same with our workplace bully and harasser. We know their in the office and we know they are going to upset us. But knowing this we are prepared for them and not intimidated by their actions.

Dealing with this is one simple step. When being bullied or harassed by a work colleague put your hand up to them, about one to two feet away, just like a policeman using the stop signal with his hand. You then say to the person, "STOP. You are harassing/bullying me, I do not like the nature of your tone and request you stop speaking in this manner immediately". Imagine the reaction you will get from the colleague, especially if they continue and you repeat yourself several times.

If this is the case, summon immediately a co-worke

g we will expect someone, the bully, to pull out in front of us and we will expect someone to turn in front of us. We should expect when shopping that someone will storm in front of us and stop suddenly. The way we deal with this is to remain calm, saying to yourself "just as I thought someone has come into my space".

When you know this and expect this and it happens you can react by slowing down and avoid the situation. You can remain calm and continue on your way as you knew this was going to happen and you expected it to happen and it did. You don't get upset and would not even give it a second thought.

This is the projection we should have because when we expect it to happen we are prepared to take the right course of action remaining calm and in control.

This is the same with our workplace bully and harasser. We know their in the office and we know they are going to upset us. But knowing this we are prepared for them and not intimidated by their actions.

Dealing with this is one simple step. When being bullied or harassed by a work colleague put your hand up to them, about one to two feet away, just like a policeman using the stop signal with his hand. You then say to the person, "STOP. You are harassing/bullying me, I do not like the nature of your tone and request you stop speaking in this manner immediately". Imagine the reaction you will get from the colleague, especially if they continue and you repeat yourself several times.

If this is the case, summon immediately a co-worke

nd you expected it to happen and it did. You don't get upset and would not even give it a second thought.

This is the projection we should have because when we expect it to happen we are prepared to take the right course of action remaining calm and in control.

This is the same with our workplace bully and harasser. We know their in the office and we know they are going to upset us. But knowing this we are prepared for them and not intimidated by their actions.

Dealing with this is one simple step. When being bullied or harassed by a work colleague put your hand up to them, about one to two feet away, just like a policeman using the stop signal with his hand. You then say to the person, "STOP. You are harassing/bullying me, I do not like the nature of your tone and request you stop speaking in this manner immediately". Imagine the reaction you will get from the colleague, especially if they continue and you repeat yourself several times.

If this is the case, summon immediately a co-worke

le step. When being bullied or harassed by a work colleague put your hand up to them, about one to two feet away, just like a policeman using the stop signal with his hand. You then say to the person, "STOP. You are harassing/bullying me, I do not like the nature of your tone and request you stop speaking in this manner immediately". Imagine the reaction you will get from the colleague, especially if they continue and you repeat yourself several times.

If this is the case, summon immediately a co-worker. With your hand in the stop position, turn to a co-worker and ask them to come to your assistance saying, "Excuse me, could you please come to my assistance, I am being treated unfairly and I would like a witness and a person to provide me with support as I feel very uncomfortable in this situation".

Think about the reaction. If it escalates you have a witness for any future action you might take. Most of all you are putting this person on immediate notice that you will not be treated this way and will not under any circumstances accept such behavior.